How to Be Yourself

“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

be yourselfWhen I was reading an online magazine the other day, I came across this famous quote by Oscar Wilde, and it immediately struck a chord with me.

It was not my first time that I had heard it, but it resonated with me. I guess it resonated particularly well with me at that given moment. Why?

I have been working on my limiting beliefs for quite some time now, sometimes I overcome one of them, others tend to creep up over and over again. Like the one where I tend to think that I need to be someone else to be happy. I think I need to pretend to be someone else, dress like someone else or behave like them to be happy.

This is complete nonsense. I get that. But I sometimes think that it is true. I am sabotaging myself. I am not being 100% me. I am pretending to be someone else to be happy? Time to get real!

This is why I work on my limiting beliefs from time to time. I probably should do it more often, but I am happy that I do it. Even little steps count towards that mile.

So, when I ask other people, I see that I am not the only one who thinks or wants to be someone else every once in a while. Due to various reasons, I guess. We all have our own reasons, personal reasons often.

People envy. People do not like themselves. Or something along those lines. So, the easiest thing for them to do (including myself), is to pretend they are someone else to make them feel better.

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Are you a busy person?

are you a busy personDo you consider yourself a busy person?

Let’s face it who does not consider themselves as “being busy?“ Everybody is busy nowadays. Everybody. At least that’s what I perceive.

I see people rushing to work after they dropped off the kids at school. I see a lady eating a salad in the office, because she does not “have the time to go for lunch”. That could have been me a few years back. Seriously.

We have all been there. Or, in fact, we might be in this boat right now.

We might think that we simply do not have to time to go for a long walk with the dog, because someone is waiting for you at home, or this certain paper needs to be send out. We might think that we simply have too much on our plate to do certain things which we would like to. [Read more…]

Why You Will Fail

SSDP failure boysLast week I shared with you on why I thought I failed on one of my recent projects. That article caught the interest of quite a few people, so it seemed to have hit a certain spot without my realizing.

For example, as a response to that post, I got an email from a cat, or rather from the “slave” of the cat, as it was written in the email. 🙂 Encouraging me to move forward, but also to take it slow, one step at a time – even if you don’t know whether you next step is your next small mistake or your next small win! That was a great help to move me out of the hole even further! [Read more…]

Why I Failed

Why I FailedWhen was the last time you failed?

For me, it was this week. In fact it was two days ago, when I was really angry at myself.

Really angry. Why? Because I had failed. And I do not like to not achieve, so I got angry. A natural reaction, I guess.

My book was supposed to come out today. Today. But it is not out, it is not ready yet. Because I failed.

And then I got carried away with this anger. All these things came up in my head. The nasty words I found describing myself. Everything from “Why did I not manage to do this?” to “I am really failing.”

Not fun.

I failed miserably, at least in my own eyes. That’s what I thought. [Read more…]

Going blind in space

going blind in space - confront fearRemember the Space song going viral last year? The astronaut singing David Bowie’s “Space Oddity” while being in ISS flying around the earth?

Well, this astronaut – Chris Hadfield – has been speaking at TED this month. The talk “What I learned from going blind in space” only got released this week, and it already has over 350.000 views!

I think I know why. I mean apart from the fact that Chris Hadfield is widely known.

Chris gives an amazing talk about his experience to confront fear, and danger. In fact he gives a recipe on how each one of us can not only address a fear that we might have, but also deal with it. It sounds simple in comparison to flying to space, in my view. [Read more…]

Learning Bites #8: How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs Which Are Holding You Back

SSDP limiting belief fenceIf you heard about a short exercise that you can do on your own (or with a close person around you) to help you overcoming those barriers which are stopping you to achieve your next goal, would you be interested in learning more about it?

Today, I would like to revive the series of Learning Bites which I have started to share last year with the objective to give you concrete action steps to put in place, different to the other articles on this blog.

What are Learning Bites? In this context, Learning Bites are (very) short learning modules or exercises, which have a strong focus on action than on knowledge delivery. They are not magic pills, but if they are done correctly and repetitively, they will help you to transform your mindset. Step by step. If you would like to check out previous exercises from last year, please visit the “Getting Started” section and check out Section #4.

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What’s Your Problem?

SSDP what's your problemThat question played a key role last week in Samsung’s promotional video for the Paralympics starting today in Sochi 2014.

Paralympics games which will start under even weirder circumstances than the Olympic Games, in my opinion, due to the “political situations”, but let’s leave that aside for this post.

I would like to quickly share with you that video to start off these exciting Games (I am about the hit the road for a long ride). These kind of Games, which are not so often talked about. I don’t know whether you follow them, maybe you do. I am not trying to convince you that you should.

I believe that this video reminds us of what humans are capable, despite whatever types of disabilities. What energy we have, what kind of motivation we can build up.

Simply amazing! [Read more…]