“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde
When I was reading an online magazine the other day, I came across this famous quote by Oscar Wilde, and it immediately struck a chord with me.
It was not my first time that I had heard it, but it resonated with me. I guess it resonated particularly well with me at that given moment. Why?
I have been working on my limiting beliefs for quite some time now, sometimes I overcome one of them, others tend to creep up over and over again. Like the one where I tend to think that I need to be someone else to be happy. I think I need to pretend to be someone else, dress like someone else or behave like them to be happy.
This is complete nonsense. I get that. But I sometimes think that it is true. I am sabotaging myself. I am not being 100% me. I am pretending to be someone else to be happy? Time to get real!
This is why I work on my limiting beliefs from time to time. I probably should do it more often, but I am happy that I do it. Even little steps count towards that mile.
So, when I ask other people, I see that I am not the only one who thinks or wants to be someone else every once in a while. Due to various reasons, I guess. We all have our own reasons, personal reasons often.
People envy. People do not like themselves. Or something along those lines. So, the easiest thing for them to do (including myself), is to pretend they are someone else to make them feel better.
Does this relate to you?
Are there moments, where you simply cannot stand yourself? Is there a line which you are afraid to cross? Are you afraid to be the real “you”?
If you are (sometimes) like me in this case, do yourself a favor and listen to Oscar Wilde. Just this once and only for today.
Listen to Oscar Wilde and follow these three steps just for today:
- Look at yourself in the mirror. As an example: Is this you, wearing all this make-up, or did you just put it on to be like the other ladies? For the guys: Ask yourself whether this beard is really you. If it is a mood or something you want to try out, then that is certainly okay, too. This exercise is just to increase your awareness.
- Next time, when you feel angry or upset about yourself, don’t judge and don’t block the emotion. Don’t argue with yourself. Feeling this emotion is normal, it is part of you. Try to feel it, don’t push it away. The more you accept it, the better.
- Open up to someone you trust. Share what you feel comfortable with with this person. Chances are that an external view from someone else will help you to see things differently.
Start with today. That is it. If you like to be you, if you (want to) love yourself how you are, to be yourself for one day. Follow the above steps for more than one day – if you like – maybe you continue over the weekend?!
Before you go, share with us below what you think. Are you being yourself?