Archives for May 2014

Being More Relaxed in Social Situations With This One Single Trick

ssdp_being more relaxed in social situationsDo you feel uneasy and uncomfortable when you meet strangers for the first time? Maybe at a business dinner? Or when you decided to join a Meetup event in town, but then get second thoughts before opening the door joining the others?

I have been there. I know what it’s like.

There were some social events where I wish I could be like Scotty from Star Trek, just beam myself elsewhere.

It would be so easy to just disappear and leave the table (or turn around at the door step). Yet, I would miss out on the fun part and I wouldn’t have the opportunity to meet all these interesting people. And make new connections. Learn new things!

Do you want to be more relaxed in social situations? So relaxed that you won’t even want to be like Scotty? [Read more…]

How to stop struggling with fear and anxiety

SSDP How to stop struggling with fear and anxietyToday’s post is inspired by one of you! You may know that I regularly ask my newsletter subscribers whether they have any topic on their chest which they would like me to address in a specific post. So, today, I would like to thank Cynthia! She asked me whether I can help with an article about how to deal with fear and anxiety in particular, so here it comes!

Before we go in detail on how to deal with fear and anxiety, let’s have a look at what both of those terms really mean.



Fear is a negative emotion felt by a person who is responding to a known or definite threat. To make it more explicit, imagine you are in a supermarket. Someone comes up next to you. You sense danger. The stranger gets out a knife and threatens you to do you harm, if you do not hand over your wallet. That emotion popping up right in those moments is fear. You feel endangered. The threat of this person with the knife is as real as it can be. [Read more…]

How to Be Yourself

“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

be yourselfWhen I was reading an online magazine the other day, I came across this famous quote by Oscar Wilde, and it immediately struck a chord with me.

It was not my first time that I had heard it, but it resonated with me. I guess it resonated particularly well with me at that given moment. Why?

I have been working on my limiting beliefs for quite some time now, sometimes I overcome one of them, others tend to creep up over and over again. Like the one where I tend to think that I need to be someone else to be happy. I think I need to pretend to be someone else, dress like someone else or behave like them to be happy.

This is complete nonsense. I get that. But I sometimes think that it is true. I am sabotaging myself. I am not being 100% me. I am pretending to be someone else to be happy? Time to get real!

This is why I work on my limiting beliefs from time to time. I probably should do it more often, but I am happy that I do it. Even little steps count towards that mile.

So, when I ask other people, I see that I am not the only one who thinks or wants to be someone else every once in a while. Due to various reasons, I guess. We all have our own reasons, personal reasons often.

People envy. People do not like themselves. Or something along those lines. So, the easiest thing for them to do (including myself), is to pretend they are someone else to make them feel better.

Does this relate to you? [Read more…]